Psychologist Molly Howes Presents a Virtual Jewish Book Council Author Talk on A Good Apology: Four Steps to Make Things Right

Thursday, September 24 at 1:00 P.M. on Zoom

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Don’t miss this talk on timely and relevant topic. There’s still time to get it right!

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“Psychologist Molly Howes on How to Say You’re Sorry,” Boston Globe “Story Behind the Book,” July 17, 2020.

“A Good Apology: Four Steps to Make Things Right,” Publisher’s Weekly, April 27, 2020.

“At a time when conflict and divisiveness seem to be engulfing us all, this wonderful, on-target book by Molly Howes is just what is needed! Here are practical, effective remedies that can help make reconciled relationships possible.”

—The Most Rev. Michael B. Curry, Presiding Bishop of The Episcopal Church

“I hope the whole world reads this book!  Dr. Howes explores the power of a genuine apology in intimate relationships, politics, medicine and more, and she provides an elegant roadmap for negotiating this tricky terrain.  The ability to apologize is an often overlooked, but centrally important, aspect of happy relationships. Seamlessly written and saturated with wisdom, this book shows what it takes to free the heart – ours and others. Fortunately, it’s never too late!”

—Christopher Germer, PhD, Faculty, Harvard Medical School, Author of The Mindful Path to Self-Compassion

“Dr. Howes’ beautiful book is a needed antidote to an era in which division has come to seem inevitable and conflict unresolvable. A Good Apology counters with a premise combining humility about the capacity of even the best among to cause harm and the possibility of human growth even in our darkest moments. It helps us forgive ourselves, too.”

—Frances Moore Lappé, Author of Diet for a Small Planet and Living Democracy, Feeding Hope


Just in time for the High Holy Days, psychologist Howes offers a thoughtful examination of the meaning and the means of making amends. Howes draws from her decades of clinical experience, as well as spiritual traditions, social justice frameworks and news stories, to illuminate the necessary steps to address hurt or harm. Making a good apology can be an intimate act or an international statement, but on any scale, the repair of a relationship powerfully creates a changed future.

Howes has published in the New York Times “Modern Love” column, Boston Globe Magazine, Bellingham Review, The Tampa Review, WBUR’s Cognoscenti, (which she also read on NPR’s “Morning Edition”), Passages North, Emrys Journal and Pangyrus. She has also contributed to the Grub Street blogs and

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